Inside the Mind of the "Crazy Black Woman!”
You know her all to well. You know the little girl who slapped the little boy in class and the teacher scold her. The pre-teen who has a crush on the boy and showed him her privates and now she walks around angry and silent all the time. The teenager who is involved with a boy but it's a nameless situation, because well, he has a girlfriend already. The young woman in college who is trying to figure out where she fits in, but at the same time exploring the options of love and well, this has resulted in her flattening her boyfriends tires, and busting his windows. The dating career woman who believes a husband will complete her life, but she has yet to find that perfect man, and the last one she had...well...his wife called. The married family woman who is envied by all her friends due to her white picket fence, but it's clear that there's something missing, it's just that know one knows what is. The older woman, with grandchildren, and a "devoted" husband of 50 years, that is satisfied with her comfortable home, where she has always seen and not seen.
We knows these women all too well, and we have for years labeled them "CRAZY BLACK WOMEN." Let me start by saying this is not a blog post meant to say women are always right, and all men are dogs, but in the recent months I have noticed a thing that is so common, that no one even argues the double standard of it anymore: "Men Win." We can debate this, and deny it, but my humble opinion is that it's true. We teach our little girls how to be lady like, how to maintain a home, how not to be promiscuous, and then we harass them about when they are going to get married. Men on the other hand are encouraged to date around, but settle with a "nice church girl," get a good job, and keep their homes at peace...if you know what I mean.
Now again, don't get me wrong, their are many men who don't operate like this even if they are taught to do so, but there are quite a few who do. The problem comes in when they come across those women mentioned above and those women RESPOND. The things black women do in response to being wronged by a man, that society has deemed as crazy is simply a response. The extremity of the response I have found is based on the woman and her walk with the Lord. For some women they would rather have peace so they just walk away from insecure situations and trust God for better. There are some though who don't understand the power of the Lord and seek to create peace by causing destruction. So the situation is not so much that black women act out because they are crazy, it more so their level of trust in God, and the actions of that man!
Being honest again, no one can expect order in chaos, so a man who desires a happy relationship or home, should create a home that honors God. When that key component is left out there is room for the enemy to come in and the enemy can drive any woman crazy, and she does not have to be black! Not all women know how to armor up for situations like that, and honestly if a man is not grounded in God then he will not be able to love a broken woman.
In conclusion, what if that little boy the girl slapped touched her inappropriately and now since the teacher scold her she thinks she was wrong for hitting him? What if the pre-teen who showed her privates is being whispered about and now all the other boys at school know? What if the boy the teenager is involved with tells her she beautiful and that he loves her,
and she never heard those things before from a man so she's okay with being the side chick? What if the young woman in college thinks she finally found the one only to catch him in the act with another girl and to her this has destroyed her dreams for them? What if the career woman is losing hope because she's getting older and now the only men that pay her any attention are already involved or married? What if the married woman is being verbally abused in her home? What if the older woman has been whispered about for years, because her husband has "outside" children?
What if........we started teaching our girls who they are in the eyes of God, so we can ensure this world never sees another "Crazy Black Woman!"
God Loves You and So Do I!
TyTalks
We knows these women all too well, and we have for years labeled them "CRAZY BLACK WOMEN." Let me start by saying this is not a blog post meant to say women are always right, and all men are dogs, but in the recent months I have noticed a thing that is so common, that no one even argues the double standard of it anymore: "Men Win." We can debate this, and deny it, but my humble opinion is that it's true. We teach our little girls how to be lady like, how to maintain a home, how not to be promiscuous, and then we harass them about when they are going to get married. Men on the other hand are encouraged to date around, but settle with a "nice church girl," get a good job, and keep their homes at peace...if you know what I mean.
Now again, don't get me wrong, their are many men who don't operate like this even if they are taught to do so, but there are quite a few who do. The problem comes in when they come across those women mentioned above and those women RESPOND. The things black women do in response to being wronged by a man, that society has deemed as crazy is simply a response. The extremity of the response I have found is based on the woman and her walk with the Lord. For some women they would rather have peace so they just walk away from insecure situations and trust God for better. There are some though who don't understand the power of the Lord and seek to create peace by causing destruction. So the situation is not so much that black women act out because they are crazy, it more so their level of trust in God, and the actions of that man!
Being honest again, no one can expect order in chaos, so a man who desires a happy relationship or home, should create a home that honors God. When that key component is left out there is room for the enemy to come in and the enemy can drive any woman crazy, and she does not have to be black! Not all women know how to armor up for situations like that, and honestly if a man is not grounded in God then he will not be able to love a broken woman.
In conclusion, what if that little boy the girl slapped touched her inappropriately and now since the teacher scold her she thinks she was wrong for hitting him? What if the pre-teen who showed her privates is being whispered about and now all the other boys at school know? What if the boy the teenager is involved with tells her she beautiful and that he loves her,
and she never heard those things before from a man so she's okay with being the side chick? What if the young woman in college thinks she finally found the one only to catch him in the act with another girl and to her this has destroyed her dreams for them? What if the career woman is losing hope because she's getting older and now the only men that pay her any attention are already involved or married? What if the married woman is being verbally abused in her home? What if the older woman has been whispered about for years, because her husband has "outside" children?
What if........we started teaching our girls who they are in the eyes of God, so we can ensure this world never sees another "Crazy Black Woman!"
God Loves You and So Do I!
TyTalks